James Edward BOND

AKA  ? 

Late of Toongabbie, NSW

“possible” relation in ‘the job’:    ?

NSW Police Training Centre – Redfern  –  Class #  159

New South Wales Police Force

ProCst # 92220

Regd. #  18092

Rank: Commenced Training at Redfern Police Academy on Monday 17 April 1978 ( aged 19 years, 2 months, 10 days )

Probationary Constable- appointed Monday 26 June 1978 ( aged 19 years, 4 months, 19 days )

Constable – appointed ? ? ?

Constable 1st Class – appointed 26 June 1983

Detective – appointed ? ? ? ( NO )

Senior Constable – appointed 26 June 1987

Final Rank: = Senior Constable

Stations:  ?, PCYC, ?, M.O. Unit – Discharged Medically Unfit

Service: From 17 April 1978   to   ? ? ? ( Medically Unfit )  =  ? years Service

Retirement / Leaving age: =  ?

Time in Retirement from Police:  ?

Awards:  National Medal – granted 7 May 1994 ( SenCon )

 Born:  Saturday 7 February 1959

Died on:  Friday 14 October 2005

Age:  46 years, 8 months, 7 days

Organ Donor:  Y / N / ?

Cause:  Depression – Suicide – Method?

Event location:  Home

Event date:  Friday 14 October 2005

Funeral date:  24 October 2005

Funeral location:  ? TBA 

Grave Location:  GL62 – General Lawn 62, Grave 0007

any Future Wake location:  ???

any Future Wake date:  ???

Funeral Parlour: ?

Buried at:  Botany Cemetery, Military Rd, Matraville, NSW

Memorial / Plaque / Monument located at:  ?

Dedication date of Memorial / Plaque / Monument: Nil – at this time ( November 2022 )

  JAMES is NOT mentioned on the Police Wall of Remembrance, NSW  *NEED MORE INFO

   JAMES is NOT mentioned on the Police Wall of Remembrance, Canberra  ( checked – Nov. 2022 )

JAMES IS NOT mentioned on the Sydney Police Centre Memorial Wall, Surry Hills ( checked – Nov. 2022 )

FURTHER INFORMATION IS NEEDED ABOUT THIS PERSON, THEIR LIFE, THEIR CAREER AND THEIR DEATH.

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May they forever Rest In Peace

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Nothing further, than what is recorded above, is known about this person at the time of publication and further information and photos would be appreciated.

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Cal
8 November 2022

Steve ‘ Splinter ‘ WOODS

New South Wales Police Force

Rank: Sergeant ?

Regd. # 18000’s ?

Stations: Forensic Services Group, Fingerprints, Parramatta

Illness – Suicide – drowning at Kyeemagh, near Sydney airport.

Born: ?

Died: ?  between 1999 – 2001 before Fingerprints moved from

Fergusson Centre to HQ, Charles St, Parramatta.

Funeral details: ?

Info from Charlie Dag. on 24 November 2014

[alert_red]Steve is NOT mentioned on the Police Wall of Remembrance

FURTHER INFORMATION NEEDED.

Russell RAWSON

New South Wales Police Force

Rank: ?

Regd. # ?

Stations: M.O. Unit

Awards:  ?

Service:  From ?  to  ?

Illness – Suicide – firearm – Meadowbank park

Born: ?

Died: ?  early 1990’s

Funeral details: ?

 [alert_red]Russell is NOT mentioned on the Police Wall of Remembrance

Info from Charlie Dag. on 24 November 2014

FURTHER INFORMATION NEEDED.

Ryan David WEAVER

AKA ?

Late of Coffs Harbour, NSW

NSW Goulburn Police Academy Class # 259

New South Wales Police Force

Regd. # 29664

Rank:  Commenced at Goulburn Police Academy on Monday 22 August 1994

Probationary Constable – Friday 17 February 1995

?

Final Rank:  ?

Stations:  Ermington, Granville until 1999 then transferred to Coffs Harbour – GDs & OSG

Service:  From  22 August 1994 to 17 January 2000 = 5+ years Service

Awards: No Find on Australian Honours

Born:  Wednesday  24 April 1974

Died  Monday  17 January 2000

Age:  25 yrs  8 mths

Cause:  Illness – Suicide – Hanging

Event location:  Home

Event date:  Monday  17 January 2000

Funeral date:  ?

Funeral location:  ?

Wake location:  ?

Funeral Parlour:  ?

Buried at:  Dawson River Cemetery, ( off Lansdowne Rd Taree ), Cundletown, NSW

Grave location:  Portion: Flower Garden, Row 1, In the flower garden in the roundabout at the end of the road in (Dawson River Cemetery Road)

Ryan is NOT mentioned on the Police Wall of Remembrance

Ryan was due to commence day shift at Coffs Harbour Police Station on the 17 January 2000 but was late for his shift.

His house mate, another Policeman, was at Coffs Harbour waiting for Ryan to relieve him from his night shift.  His mate phoned Ryan to ask why he was late and Ryan told him that he was leaving now and would be at the station shortly.

When Ryan failed to turn up half hour after the conversation, his house mate went home to ascertain what the problem was, only to find Ryan had hung himself in the garage.

Ryan was 25 years of age.

May he forever Rest In Peace.

Peter James McGRATH

New South Wales Police Force

Member of Police Academy Class  227

Regd. #  23807

Rank: Probationary Constable – appointed 26 June 1987

Constable – appointed 26 June 1988

Detective Senior Constable – Death

Stations:  Petersham ( 1987 ) – 11 Division, Annandale Police Station

Service:  From Pre June 1987  to 15 June 1995 = 8+ years Service

Awards:  ? Nil

Born:  11 April 1963

Died on:  15 June 1995

Cause:  Suicide – jumped from 7th floor

Event location:  Camperdown, NSW

Age:  32

Funeral date:  ?

Funeral location:

Buried at: Cremated at Rookwood

At 4.15pm on 15 June, 1995 the senior constable fell to his death from a building in Glebe. He was off duty and on sick leave at the time. It was later determined that he was suffering from work related Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, depression and anxiety as a result of his policing experiences.

The senior constable was born in 1963 and joined the New South Wales Police Force on 26 June, 1987.

This member IS mentioned on the National Police Memorial Wall.

Death Of Detective Constable Peter McGrath

Legislative Council by date

24 October 1996

DEATH OF DETECTIVE CONSTABLE PETER McGRATH
The Hon. M. J. GALLACHER [4.49]: I bring to the attention of all honourable members yet another example of bureaucracy gone wrong. On 17 August 1992 Detective Constable Peter McGrath attended the scene of an armed robbery in progress at the Associazione Polysportiva Italo-Australiana club, the APIA club. Offenders were present and were armed. They had taken eight hostages and were in the process of collecting $60,000 from the armed robbery when the police arrived. It was a classic stand-off situation, with the offenders and police pointing loaded firearms at each other. The cool head of this officer and his partner resulted in both offenders eventually giving up. On 26 November 1992 Detective McGrath together with another officer whilst off duty were viciously attacked by approximately 12 males, resulting in serious injury to Detective McGrath’s companion and grave psychological illness to himself.

During the course of Detective McGrath’s duty he attended a domestic situation in which a mother and her de facto partner had placed a baby into a bath of boiling water before picking the skin off the baby and putting it to bed. The baby died a few months afterwards. Detective McGrath had to attend the post mortem. At the time of the trial of the offenders the detective’s wife had given birth to a son. In May 1993, as a result of the assault in November 1992, Detective McGrath began to show signs of depression, which were accepted by the Police Service as illness related to the course of his duty. His doctor supplied information to the Police Service regarding his illness and it was accepted that he had been hurt on duty.

By June 1995 Detective McGrath’s psychological condition had deteriorated. He believed that he was being followed by personnel from the Royal Commission into the New South Wales Police Service. He believed that he was going to be set up by police in relation to a crime. On 15 June 1995 he went to work at Annandale with the purpose of resigning. Detective McGrath’s supervisor realised that he was suffering from depression, talked him out of handing in his resignation and sent him home on annual leave. Later that afternoon Detective McGrath told his wife that he was going to resign. He left his home but instead of attending the police station he went to a high-rise block of flats in Camperdown and jumped to his death.

Contrary to rumours, Detective McGrath was not the subject of any royal commission inquiry, and I am in possession of correspondence to that effect from Mr Michael Finnane, QC, who represents the Police Service at the royal commission. Detective McGrath’s integrity is not in question. The Police Service and the people of New South Wales can ill afford to lose police of the calibre of Detective McGrath. I resigned from the Police Service and within three weeks received my superannuation payment. Detective McGrath died on 15 June 1995 but his wife did not receive his superannuation payment until August 1996 – 14 months after his death. On 26 June 1996 she received a letter from the Police Service telling her that his death was not as a result of his police work.

Detective McGrath has left a wife and two children, Kata aged four and David who is now two. His wife must go it alone without any support from the Police Service. I have written to the Commissioner of Police in regard to the appalling treatment that this woman has received and I look forward to hearing from him that the decision made earlier this year will be reversed. On 19 September 1996 Mrs McGrath personally filed an application for determination with the Compensation Court of New South Wales to challenge the decision of the Police Service so that she might be entitled to a pension. She has to pay for those proceedings herself. The money that Mrs McGrath is using is money from the family, money that would be better used for the children.

I do not believe that this case has been accorded the credit to which it is certainly entitled. The Commissioner of Police must immediately reinvestigate this matter to ensure that Mrs McGrath is treated justly. It is important that all wives and husbands and all children whose fathers and mothers work for the Police Service know that if they are unfortunate enough to lose their loved ones they will be protected. Psychological illness does not disbar an officer from consideration for compensation from the Police Service. I firmly believe that this matter is one that deserves just consideration and I hope that the Commissioner of Police accords it such consideration expeditiously.

Motion agreed to.

House adjourned at 4.53 p.m. until Tuesday, 29 October 1996, at 2.30 p.m.

http://www.parliament.nsw.gov.au/prod/parlment/hansart.nsf/V3Key/LC19961024053

http://www.smh.com.au/news/national/holding-judgement/2007/06/08/1181089328815.html?page=fullpage

It took up 451 hearing days, heard from 902 public witnesses and cost an estimated $64 million. Malcolm Brown reports on the Wood royal commission, 10 years on.

Another former policeman, Dr Michael Kennedy, says the commission was a political response to the police commissioner, Tony Lauer, bringing about the downfall of the then police minister, Ted Pickering.

The attorney-general, ministry and judiciary took little responsibility for the state of the force, Kennedy says, while the responsibility of the police rank-and-file grew to “the size of a Pacific driftnet”. “I don’t think the royal commission contributed anything to the reform process except to provide a template for double standards,” he says.

CRUSADER WHO MADE THE CALL

JOHN HATTON well remembers the audience on May 11, 1994, when he made his speech calling for a royal commission into the NSW Police Service. MPs were listening, of course, but it was a gallery above him, packed with the “top brass of the police force – the commissioner himself, the deputy commissioner, superintendents – they were an intimidating force on the Parliament”.

“They thought they could stare down the Labor Party support for my motion,” Hatton, now retired, says. “It was probably the best indicator of the way in which the police force thought they could control the agenda.”

Hatton won the day, putting paid to a claim by then police commissioner, Tony Lauer, that “systemic corruption” was “a figment of the political imagination”. Hearings started on November 24, 1994, and Justice James Wood delivered his final report on August 26, 1997.

Ten years later, Hatton believes he was vindicated. He says Wood was “the right man” to head the commission and the recruitment of interstate police was crucial, along with the decision to use phone taps and surveillance.

The 11 volumes of material Hatton gave the royal commission had been accumulated over 14 years, he says, from the time he had first spoken up. He had received information on illegal gambling, drug trafficking and police involvement with the mafia.

There had been earlier moves to address police corruption, including inquiries by the Independent Commission Against Corruption, but these had only scratched the surface. “I can remember on one occasion I reported a death threat which had to do with the McKay murder in Griffith and 48 hours later the bloke who had given the information was threatened by a shotgun at his door in Queensland,” Hatton says.

The royal commission came into being because Hatton and other independent MPs held the balance of power in Parliament. The Labor Party may have had high public motives, but also saw a chance to attack the Fahey government. Labor stipulated that an inquiry into police protection of pedophiles, previously in the hands of the ICAC, become part of the royal commission.

The process of gathering information was helped greatly by Trevor Haken, a detective who became an informer and covert investigator as part of a deal to avoid being prosecuted himself.

Hatton says Haken‘s entry was “out of the blue”. Though useful, in the long term it had had a detrimental effect on the fight against corruption. Living in fear and watching his back, Haken had provided “the greatest disincentive for someone coming forward to finger corruption in the system”.

Malcolm Brown

Scott Andrew NICHOLSON

New South Wales Police Force – Resigned

ProCst # 94539   

Regd. #  20237

Redfern Police Academy Class 182 B

Rank: Commenced Training at Redfern Police Academy with Class 182B on Monday 8 March 1982

Probationary Constable – appointed 28 May 1982

Constable 1st Class – appointed 28 May 1987

Detectives Training Course 28/ 20 May – 28 June 1991

Senior Constable – level 9 upon Resignation

“possibly” Acting Detective Sergeant – Resigned

After resignation ( due to PTSD ) Scott was a Ranger with Liverpool Council until his death

Stations:  Campbelltown ( 1980’s ), Camden, Bulga, Fraud Squad, Child Mistreatment Unit

Service:  From ? February 1982 to ? ? 1996 = 14 years, 8 months, 6 days Service    

Awards:  No find on It’s An Honour

Illness: – PTSD – Suicide – carbon monoxide gassing in vehicle

Born:  Saturday 4 April 1959 in Temora, NSW

Died:  Thursday 14 November 1996

Age:  37 years, 7 months, 10 days

Funeral:  Leppington Lawn Cemetery, NSW

Funeral date:  ? ? ?

Buried at:  Cremated & Resting in the Fountain Garden, Nicholson plot,

 

 

PLEASE EVERYONE I ASK THAT YOU TAKE THE TIME OUT OF YOUR LIVES TO READ MY STORY. I’M LISA NICHOLSON AND MY FATHER WAS SCOTT NICHOLSON.

PLEASE JUST READ LIKE AND SHARE!!!!!!!!

 

[blockquote]Hi my name’s Lisa Nicholson and my father is Scott Nicholson. They say we are one big police family and we look after our own yet they don’t even care to see the damage there doing. My dad suicided when I was just 6 years old he was my world my life my everything. The day he died my world fell apart and the older I got the harder it hit me. I suffered and battled countless years of depression, I was raped and beat as a child and teenager and I had the balls to follow this through with court. But, tragically, all of this led to many suicide attempts.

Thankfully my dad had my back though I actually believed the world was so awful and painful that I belonged with my dad. I had a very hard time seeing other officers thinking that’s my dad he is as good a officer as you, yet why is he not remembered!??

He was so proud to be an officer and truly lived through his work right to the end! The end that the line of work he did helped drive him too!!! He worked his ass off to get the respect and acknowledgement that he gained and I’ve always been so proud to say that my daddy was a police officer!! Yet here these ass wipes are claiming that everything my father worked for his whole life everything he believed in and followed isn’t recognised. They claim that we’re one big family and in truth it has felt like that thanks to police legacy but then there’s the fact that I’ve got to, every single day, deal with the emotional grief that I will never see my daddy again and then there’s the fact that the man I love so much and am so proud to say he was an officer will never meet my daughter and my daughter will never meet her grandfather and that, in itself, has me pretty low but on top of all that these guys wanna destroy me; even more, give me no choice and take whatever is left in me to fight to have my daddy’s name on the police Remembrance wall; a wall that all our fallen officers are on, all except the ones who took things into there own hands. We’re one big family yet not only has their line of work taken my father and my daughters grandfather but they wanna take everything that I’ve left because they won’t respect what they’d say “one of our own” my dad deserves that respect and so do so many others and again they say we’re one big family but can they even see that their own choices, actions are killing us even more!!!!

I know I’m not the only one but I can only speak on behalf of myself. I wanna know why?? my daddy, the man that the only image I can recall is of him in his uniform, the man who tragically lost his life, the man who they claim death is not tragic enough to be remembered. Why??? I wanna know why?? my dad’s dead the same as officers who’ve died in the line of duty. Dead not coming back; he died from the pain and suffering from his job and they die in the line of duty but they’re telling me my dad’s death isn’t good enough or tragic enough.

No wonder half the population have lost faith in these guys. I will continue to support and stand tall and for as long as I can with everyone else and I won’t ever stop speaking out.

Your secret is no longer!

He will be remembered.

Thank you for reading my story. Please like and share this around. The more this gets around the more I hope will get in their face and finally remember all our lost men and women.

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Police Officer Suicide Should Be Included on The Wall Of Remembrance

Thank you for sharing such a deeply personal and heart wrenching story of your journey Lisa! This is so courageous of you. The impact that your father’s death had on you and your family is something that the Police force haven’t been around to witness, acknowledge or support and sadly have contributed to your grief in doing so!

Glad to have you on this journey with us Lisa! Xx

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• Sharona Sione Tylern Orlando Aweee hunni so heartbreaking thinking of you sweetie. X x x

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• Lisa Nicholson No thank you for allowing me to share this!!! It is such a raw painful subject but I’ve had enough of holding it in and I can only hope that others have the courage to do the same. Will be on this journey till the end!!!!

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  Resting place of Scott:  [codepeople-post-map]

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  When Sharan’s happy-go-lucky husband became a monster

  By CYDONEE MARDON

  Jan. 9, 2015, 7:48 p.m.

  

  Sharan Nicholson-Rogers watched her husband change from a happy-go-lucky police officer into an unpredictable man prone to violent and emotional outbursts.

  The gentle bloke she loved grabbed hold of her one day and shoved his gun down her throat, telling her he couldn’t live any more because of what he was doing to their family.

  Eighteen months later, Detective Sergeant Scott Andrew Nicholson took his own life.

  That was 19 years ago.

  Today Mrs Nicholson-Rogers is as determined as she was the day her husband died to bring about change.

  [blockquote]” There is complete contempt for anyone who falls. They will kick you to the kerb. “[/blockquote]

  She is calling for the establishment of a centre of excellence – a place where police officers can go for respite, support and treatment from mental health professionals.

  “I know guys in the job right now who are crippled with PTSD [post-traumatic stress disorder],” Mrs Nicholson-Rogers said.

  “They’re still working, doing their best to stay in the job, but they need help.

  “So many have gone through poor management and there is complete contempt for anyone who falls. They will kick you to the kerb.

  “[Sufferers] need a place where they can go, feel safe, be honest about the fact they need help to cope and a place where they can get the best available support from experts in the field.”

  Mrs Nicholson-Rogers sought help for her husband when she saw the signs he was losing control.

  “He became this monster, he couldn’t help it, everything triggered him,” Mrs Nicholson-Rogers recalls.

  “I’d find him curled up in the foetal position, crying and crying.

  “One night we had a bunch of friends over, we cooked lamb on the Weber and I brought it in for him to cut up and he just lost it. He started smashing the kitchen up and screaming.”

  Later he revealed the charred lamb reminded him of two children he’d seen burnt to death in a caravan.

  

  “The kids were the same ages as ours,” Mrs Nicholson-Rogers said.

  She urged her husband to talk to his boss about his emotional well-being and asked him to contact police welfare.

  “He said to me ‘Are you serious? They’ll say go to the pub and have a drink, get over it’.

  “He didn’t drink much then but he soon learnt to so he wouldn’t be labelled a ‘sheila’.

  “They get this sick sense of humour, that’s the way they get through it. Down at the pub or the bowlo for a debrief then the wives are left to pick up the mess at the end.”

  Mrs Nicholson-Rogers and her two children have been to hell and back since her husband’s 1996 suicide.

  It was only through counselling that Mrs Nicholson-Rogers, a health promotions officer with NSW Health, realised the true impact on her children.

  “The day Scott had the gun down my throat, my seven-year-old son witnessed that. I didn’t know at the time. It’s impacted on them terribly. As they got older they realised the enormity of what had happened. It’s been a really rough road for us.”

  Scott spent 13 years in the job, with stints in Camden, Campbelltown and a one-man station in the country.

  He died aged 37.

  Mrs Nicholson-Rogers reached out for help when things got really bad.

  “I contacted police welfare the day after he went off his head about the barbecue, I told them he wasn’t well. He had his gun taken off him [temporarily]. They suggested maybe he should stay home, play housewife more, take more holidays, go for walks at night, debrief with his mates, that’s it.

  “He was suffering PTSD and he was told the best thing he could do is exercise.”

  Then one night Detective Sergeant Nicholson came home and told his wife he had resigned. Six months later he was dead.

  “We had been asking for help for a while, through his bosses. I tried senior management,” she said.

  “At one point when he got violent with me I said I’d had enough and I would have him charged if something didn’t change.

  “They said ‘Please don’t because we will have to take his gun off him’. I told them he needed help, he was a loose cannon, he will hurt someone.”

  Mrs Nicholson-Rogers said suggestions he and other struggling officers were simply not right for the job was a cop-out.

  “I hear the same thing today, young guys now being told maybe they’re not right for the job, maybe they should get out. Well no-one is right for a job where day in, day out, they deal with trauma. Layer on layer it consumes them and no-one can take that without the proper support.”

  

  Mrs Nicholson-Rogers, a nurse familiar with the trauma of frontline emergency, is one of several police wives willing to work with government and police officials to create the centre of excellence.

  “We can give a family perspective to help them set up a place where police can go in the short term and stay if they need to and feel safe, where they are not going to feel compromised or spied on by insurance companies.

  “We need change. The attitude of senior management has got to change.

  “Right now, if you say you’ve got a problem, you’re not coping, the bosses think ‘Oh great there’s another one off sick. That means a man down, overtime, it’s the cost.”

  Mrs Nicholson-Rogers and a group of police wives believe they have a solution and are urging NSW Police Minister Stuart Ayres to work with them.

  

  “We need change. The attitude of senior management has got to change.”

  “I’m one of the lucky ones who have healed to a degree and married again to a man who totally supports my fight for change,” she said.

  “I would like to see him meet with us, it’s not about us canning him, it’s about working together collectively with all our experience as families, to pick our brains on what they can do to make a change. Hiding from it is not the answer.

  “They can’t keep turning their back. There are more and more suicides and experienced cops are dropping out. They are losing an experienced workforce that can be real value.”

  Mrs Nicholson-Rogers has a plea for the minister: “Don’t let any more families lose their husband, wife or parent by not making changes that you know will make a difference.

  “Just take a minute or two of your time to listen to my children if you can’t talk to me, see the pain and grief in their eyes and I assure you it will change your mind and you will work to make positive changes.”

  The NSW Police Minister was contacted by the Mercury but so far has not responded.

  The NSW Police Force has provided details of the programs and initiatives already in place for preventing PTSD and supporting its officers.

   

  For help and counselling: Lifeline 131114; Suicide Call Back Service 1300 65946 

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• stephen • 2 months ago

  Please keep running these stories, there needs to be a ground swell of public contempt for this culture within the policing system. Only that way will there be some light at the end of the tunnel for these men and women, and their families, who are having their lives ruined whilst serving and protecting the public.

  Joey • 2 months ago

  So proud of you sharon !!! Step by step change is coming !!!
  We cant change the past but we can change the future and prevent other families feeling the same pain . Much love to you and the girls so proud ox

  Macca • 2 months ago

  Not everyone is mentally able to absorb the rigours of the Military or Emergency services.
  I note that the Police “spokesman” has declared that they have in place procedures to help if PTSD becomes a factor.
  Having some knowledge of this issue Why are the recruits not adequately assessed during training rather than waiting for the nightmare to begin?
  It may not catch all , but may help some before their life is destroyed.
  The military at least have programs to assess their recruits and place them in areas of higher or lower degrees of capability to absorb stress. it cannot be that difficult.
  I thank God my daughter changed her decision and followed nursing.

  Who knows Macca • 2 months ago

  Im not sure that you can 100% assess how a person will handle situations. I see myself as pretty resilient but that may all change if i saw the aftermath of a bunch of children stabbed to death.
  I guess u just never know.

  Lilstudent • 2 months ago

  You are a strong woman Sharon for campaigning for this and no doubt keeping the wounds raw for you. It is horrible that your husband was not given the support he needed, and I’m sure there are many others suffering in silence like a ticking time bomb.

  Ted • 2 months ago

  There used to be government run places people could go but they had a few issues that the media beat up and politicians could see a few bucks in selling off the real estate to themselves so……………………………………………………………………thank the dumb Aussie people.

  http://www.illawarramercury.com.au/story/2807747/when-sharans-happy-go-lucky-husband-became-a-monster/?cs=4401

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N.S.W Police Watch

January 14, 2015 ·

13 January 2015

She said that they develop a “Sick Sense Of Humour” her husband put a gun in her mouth in front of her children, he took his own life some time after. She said they turn into monsters , and they lose track of reality and develop this “sick sense of humour” Black humour I know cops call it.. but those of us with a sense of balance and compassion, would call it “sick”.. Because it is “sick” Its as sick as the criminals they chase and lock up for doing “sick’ things, they themselves have a “sick” way after a while.. And it gets worse not better over time ..

“Sharan Nicholson-Rogers watched her husband change from a happy-go-lucky police officer into an unpredictable man prone to violent and emotional outbursts.

The gentle bloke she loved grabbed hold of her one day and shoved his gun down her throat, telling her he couldn’t live any more because of what he was doing to their family.

Eighteen months later, Detective Sergeant Scott Andrew Nicholson took his own life.

That was 19 years ago.

Today Mrs Nicholson-Rogers is as determined as she was the day her husband died to bring about change.

“There is complete contempt for anyone who falls. They will kick you to the kerb.”

She is calling for the establishment of a centre of excellence – a place where police officers can go for respite, support and treatment from mental health professionals.

“I know guys in the job right now who are crippled with PTSD [post-traumatic stress disorder],” Mrs Nicholson-Rogers said.

“They’re still working, doing their best to stay in the job, but they need help.

“So many have gone through poor management and there is complete contempt for anyone who falls. They will kick you to the kerb.

Mrs Nicholson-Rogers sought help for her husband when she saw the signs he was losing control.

“He became this monster, he couldn’t help it, everything triggered him,” Mrs Nicholson-Rogers recalls.

“I’d find him curled up in the foetal position, crying and crying.
She urged her husband to talk to his boss about his emotional well-being and asked him to contact police welfare.

“He said to me ‘Are you serious? They’ll say go to the pub and have a drink, get over it’.

“He didn’t drink much then but he soon learnt to so he wouldn’t be labelled a ‘sheila’.

“They get this sick sense of humour, that’s the way they get through it. Down at the pub or the bowlo for a debrief then the wives are left to pick up the mess at the end.”

Mrs Nicholson-Rogers and her two children have been to hell and back since her husband’s 1996 suicide.

It was only through counselling that Mrs Nicholson-Rogers, a health promotions officer with NSW Health, realised the true impact on her children.

“The day Scott had the gun down my throat, my seven-year-old son witnessed that. I didn’t know at the time. It’s impacted on them terribly. As they got older they realised the enormity of what had happened. It’s been a really rough road for us.”

Scott spent 13 years in the job, with stints in Camden, Campbelltown and a one-man station in the country.

He died aged 37.

Mrs Nicholson-Rogers reached out for help when things got really bad.

“I contacted police welfare the day after he went off his head about the barbecue, I told them he wasn’t well. He had his gun taken off him [temporarily]. They suggested maybe he should stay home, play housewife more, take more holidays, go for walks at night, debrief with his mates, that’s it.

“He was suffering PTSD and he was told the best thing he could do is exercise.”

Then one night Detective Sergeant Nicholson came home and told his wife he had resigned. Six months later he was dead.

“We had been asking for help for a while, through his bosses. I tried senior management,” she said.

“At one point when he got violent with me I said I’d had enough and I would have him charged if something didn’t change.

“They said ‘Please don’t because we will have to take his gun off him’. I told them he needed help, he was a loose cannon, he will hurt someone.”

Mrs Nicholson-Rogers said suggestions he and other struggling officers were simply not right for the job was a cop-out.

“I hear the same thing today, young guys now being told maybe they’re not right for the job, maybe they should get out. Well no-one is right for a job where day in, day out, they deal with trauma. Layer on layer it consumes them and no-one can take that without the proper support.”

 

Tom Rigby PTSD is a terrible burden for anyone to wear, unfortunately though societies answer is exactly as written in the article ” Go to the pub and have a drink!”

Like · Reply · 1 · January 14, 2015 at 11:01am

 

Alan Hardy If you carnt handle the heat get out of the kitchen

Like · Reply · 1 · January 14, 2015 at 12:23pm

 

Stephen Evelyn Wall Just wondering Alan what job do you do??
These ppl do a wonderful job but doing that job they see and experience terrible things we can’t imagine. All the training in the world doesn’t prepare you for what they have to face.

Like · Reply · 1 · January 14, 2015 at 3:26pm

 

Allison Mc Paul Ftp

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N.S.W Police Watch https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s-tJKFgbkWU

Police Integrity Commission investigate alleged cover up of…

youtube.com

Like · Reply · 2 · January 14, 2015 at 5:15pm

 

N.S.W Police Watch You need to do some more research Evelyn, many are not doing a wonderful job at all and then many above them cover for it..

Like · Reply · 3 · January 14, 2015 at 5:15pm

 

N.S.W Police Watch http://books.google.com.au/…/Enemies_of_the_State.html…

Enemies of the State

Tim Priest is a former police detective who was on the front line in the war against crime and drugs in…

books.google.com.au

Like · Reply · 2 · January 14, 2015 at 5:20pm

 

Alan Hardy You are right Evelyn wall ,but if you can not handle your job ,what ever that job is quit and get another job. It’s a job not your life

Like · Reply · 2 · January 14, 2015 at 9:58pm

 

Alan Medhurst Revell Well, well, well…. Looky ere…

Like · Reply · January 15, 2015 at 11:53am

 

N.S.W Police Watch Have edited Jeff, apologies for that.

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For more read on below

http://www.illawarramercury.com.au/…/when-sharans-happy-go…/

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First published on 26 October 2014.

Updated on 28 April 2026 with further information and calculations.